"It can always be worse" is my motto.
We need to keep life's challenges in perspective.
Recognizing that most situations could be worse helps us to appreciate our situation, even if our situation is not all that great.
Then there are mornings like today, when you hear about something so awful that it really is a mother's worst nightmare.
I was still in bed when my eldest daughter called.
She heard something really awful and did not know how to process her feelings.
The news reported that a 16 year old girl and a 20 year old boy were found, dead, in Nachlaot, apparently from a drug overdose. The girl is someone my daughter has known since she was a baby. They were in playgroup and, later, in kindergarten together. Most of the girls in my daughter's High School were in Elementary School and/or Jr. High School with this girl. All the mothers know this girl's mother.
My daughter told me: "the first thing I did was verify that the information is true; the next thing I did was to call you."
We spoke for a few minutes. Then my daughter needed to go to class.
They are addressing this incident in her school.
Everyone is in shock.
I tried to find information on the internet. The news reports do not mention the name of the girl or her family.
Once again I am struck by the irony of the adage "no news is good news."
This is the second time that I learned details of a tragedy even before all the information was released to the public.
I am still stunned.
How can I expect my 16 year old to process this nightmare when I am having such a difficult time processing it?
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,
Purim in New York
9 hours ago