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Tuesday, November 10, 2020

Video recording of erev zikaron

I have been receiving messages from many people who were unable to enter the Zoom meeting yesterday because the number of participants had reached maximum capacity.  I apologize to everyone who wasn't able to get in.  Fortunately, the meeting was livestreamed to Facebook as well, and it is still viewable there.  You can watch a recording of the entire erev zikaron on Facebook at this link.  (The actual meeting gets underway at 9 minutes into the video.)

Moshe

Monday, November 9, 2020

Thank you!

I'd like to thank everyone who participated in the erev zikaron yesterday, and for the kind feedback that many of you have given me.  It was heartwarming to spend the evening commemorating Rivka's yahrtzeit with so many friends and family members who knew her so well, and also with those of you who may not have known her as well but who joined in honoring her memory.

Thank you to David, for the moving talk that you gave.

And thank you to those who weren't able to come, but were with us in spirit.

Finally, thank you to Louise for the enormous efforts that you have made over the course of years, to make the book about Rivka into a reality.  And thank you to RaphaĆ«l as well for the help you provided, which enabled the book to be made available yesterday.

For those interested in purchasing the book, the details are below.

Besorot tovot,

Moshe


Rivka: Stories and Memories

RivkA

Stories and Memories

Stories and memories of RivkA Matitya as shared by her family, friends and blog-readers

Collated and edited by Louise Fox

To purchase copies:

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

Erev zikaron for Rivka - 5781

For the past nine years, we have gathered together for an erev zikaron (memorial evening) for Rivka each year, to celebrate her life and remember her.  This year, we will gather online via Zoom to commemorate the tenth anniversary of her passing.

We will be screening a talk originally given by Rivka in 2009, on the topic of "Coping with Adversity".

The talk, as well as the rest of the evening, will be in English.

Everyone who would like to attend is welcome and invited.

Here are the Zoom details:
Topic: Erev zikaron for Rivka - 5781
Date: Sunday evening, 22 Marheshvan / 8 November
Time: 8:00 PM (Jerusalem, Israel)
Zoom link
Meeting ID: 848 1772 8918
Passcode: 4E6WWE

The event will also be livestreamed on this Facebook event page.

Please pass along this message to anyone who might be interested.

I'm looking forward to seeing all of you who will be attending!

Moshe


P.S.:  We will be making an aliyah l'kever (visit to Rivka's grave) that morning (Sun, 21 Marheshvan / 8 November), at 10:00 am.  (Details regarding the location and prayers can be found here.)  Anyone who would like to join us is welcome.

Thursday, October 31, 2019

Erev zikaron for Rivka - 5780


We will be holding an erev zikaron (memorial evening) for Rivka, on the evening of the ninth anniversary of her passing.

Yael Unterman will be giving a shiur in Rivka's memory on the following topic:

"I feel your pain: Empathy and its limits"

The shiur, as well as the rest of the evening, will be in English.

Everyone who would like to come is welcome and invited to attend.

Here are the details:

Date: Monday evening, 21 Marheshvan / 18 November
Time: 7:30 pm
Place: Beit Boyer (Kehillat Talpiot HaChadashah)
Rehov Efrata 36
Talpiot, Jerusalem
(See here for a map and directions.)

Please note that this is not the same location where we have been holding the erev zikaron in previous years.

For everyone who would like to help bring refreshments, please enter your name alongside what you can bring in this spreadsheet.

Please pass along this message to anyone who might be interested.

I'm looking forward to seeing all of you who will be coming.

Moshe


P.S.:  We will be making an aliyah l'kever (visit to Rivka's grave) the following morning (Tuesday, 21 Marheshvan / 19 November), at 9:00 am.  (Details regarding the location and prayers can be found here.)  We would like to ensure that we have have a minyan, so if you can come, then please let me know.  (You can leave a comment on this post, or send me an email.)

Thursday, November 1, 2018

Remember

The following is the text of the poem by Rivka that I read at her erev zikaron on Monday night.


8 November, 1988

Remember

by Karin Rivka Zuckerman


What do you call the rain
that lightly falls
and gently washes
all your worries
away

I want to run
with arms outstretched
on sit on my doorstep
dreaming

My mind flickers
between past and present
I feel so happy
to be
alive

Aliyah and Change

The following is the text of the essay by Rivka that I read at her erev zikaron on Monday night.


Winter/Spring 1989


Change occurs, whether we are ready for it or not;  and we are usually not prepared.  Such is the case with graduating from college (which I did three months ago)... and making Aliyah (lit. moving up;  i.e., moving to Israel) (which I am about to do).

I have dreamed about Aliyah for as long as I can remember.  Yet, dreaming about Aliyah is a very different process from actually moving to Israel.  Most events are easy to prepare for in the abstract, or when they are far away.  When I originally tried to gather information about what I would need to do, I was continually told "it's too early for the kind of preparations you're talking about."  Suddenly, it's no longer "too early" and I have more preparations than I have time for.  I'd better get used to it.  My Aliyah is this summer.

Aliyah is a big change.  Though I have been waiting for this time since I was six years old, I am hardly ready for it.  A friend recently asked me if I had any fears about the upcoming event.  "Are you kidding," I responded in amazement, "I'm terrified!"  Being idealistic does not prevent one from being aware of the realities, and the realities of Israel are tough ones.  In addition to the difficulties faced by other Israelis, American Olim (new immigrants) face problems that are particular to their situation.  Olim have to learn a new language, literally and figuratively.  Learning Hebrew is easy compared to learning to understand some of the more subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) nuances of the language of society.  In addition, Olim have to learn an entirely new set of rules about how their society is run.  Moreover, they have to confront life's problems without the day-to-day support of their family and life-long friends (unless the newcomer is one of the priveleged few whose families and friends have also made Aliyah... most of us are not that fortunate).  While Aliyah is perhaps the greatest upcoming transition in my life, many of the changes I am currently experiencing have nothing to do with it.  Rather, they are the normal ones that come as a result of graduating from college and beginning a new life.

Graduating from college and entering "the real world" is, in and of itself, extremely intimidating.  All of a sudden, the previously sheltered young adult is thrust into the challenges of earning a living, balancing a budget, and rebuilding a social framework.  It's not easy.  In addition, the intellectually challenging atmosphere of the university is replaced by a mundane world filled with mundane tasks.  No longer is the world at one's front door.  One has to travel everywhere:  To work, to friends, to activities.  When you get down to it, life in the "real world" is inconvenient and difficult anywhere, even in the United States.

The hardest aspect of moving on in life is saying goodbye.  We leave so much behind when we start something new:  Places that we can walk through blindfolded, sounds that we hear in our sleep, sights and smells that we have grown used to.  Most of all, we leave the people that mean the most to us.  There are so many people that we say goodbye to.  There are many people who I will not promise to write to because I know that we will not keep in touch.  However, there are some people with whom I really hope to keep in contact, and I wonder... in five years, how many will I still be in touch with?  It's hard to maintain the contact when you are separated by so great a distance.  Visits are next to impossible and letters grow farther and farther apart;  these are the facts of life.  Furthermore, as our lives continue along such separate paths, our concerns also diverge.  Our joys and our interests represent the different lives we lead and often become difficult for others to share and understand.

More than anything else, I am torn by the fact that moving to Israel means leaving my family.  I am fortunate to have a wonderful family.  I am close with both my brother and my sister, and my mother and father have always been my best friends.  Moving to Israel does not mean that I will lose these special relationships, however, it does mean that they will change.  All of us will have to redefine our relationships with each other to meet the new restrictions of living thousands of miles apart.  Telephone calls will no longer be able to run on for an hour, nor will they occur every few days;  we will have to plan visits months in advance;  and we will not spend birthdays and holidays together.  Life will constantly remind us of the vast distances that separate us.  (We will be unaware of the daily events in each others' lives.)  These are the realities of choosing to live in a homeland which, in many ways, is so far from home.  Although it is in the nature of things that children grow up, build their own homes, and begin their own families, there remains within all of us a part (no matter how small) that considers home to be wherever mom and dad are.

Nonetheless, there are many changes that I am eagerly looking forward to.  Each day that I am in Israel I will be fulfilling my dream of living in the Jewish State, on my land, with my history, my language, and my people.  National holidays will be my holidays;  and the state schools will teach my culture;  the museums will record my people's heritage and achievements.  In Israel, everything is mine, including the problems.  However, equally significant is that the issues I care about changing in Israel will be mine to change.  In Israel, every individual's presence makes a difference and I want my voice to be counted.  Although I know that daily life there will be filled with constant challenges for me, I know that my children will feel at home within the Israeli system, and it is they who will be my future and the future of my people.

It is comforting for me to see that many of my peers from college, who are working in the U.S., have also discovered that they need time to adjust to life.  If it is tough for them to adapt to a new life in their native country, then it is only natural that I will have difficulties in one that is foreign.  Just as they will eventually find their way in America, so too will I eventually find my place in Israel.  (It would be unrealistic for me to expect that my Aliyah will be easy, since adjusting to life is not easy.  At least, in the U.S., I would know what to expect.)  Once I get off the plane in Israel, I will encounter a world that I barely know or understand.  I will prepare for this new world as much as I can, but it is impossible to predict the turns, both good and bad, that will undoubtedly creep up along the way.  The unexpected occurs everywhere... why shouldn't it happen to me in Israel?

And so change creeps up on the best of us, and we have only to face it and move onward and upward (pun intended).

Rivka's essay and poem

Many of you have asked for copies of the essay and the poem written by Rivka that I read at the erev zikaron.  I am posting them here, for anyone who would like to read them. Moshe