In addition to a full schedule of mid-year exams, the kids have all sorts of fun days and activities: Yom Pyjamot (pajama day -- kids and teachers come to school in their PJs), Yom HaTalmid (student day --the 6th graders "teach" classes that day), Shuk Purim (carnival day, run by the 6th graders), etc
They also have two weeks of Gamad V'Anak (Israeli version of "Secret Santa"), when they exchange gifts, culminating in their final gift of "mishloach manot" on the last day before Purim vacation.
Mostly, the kids want candy. So a good "anak" (giant) gives his/her "gamad" (dwarf) all sorts of different candies. A lot of kids spend time making creative "packages" for their gamadim.
In our home, I have always encouraged my kids to be creative and make fun gifts for their gamadim, of which the candy is only a part.
Tonight, when I got home from my support group, I was tired and went straight to bed.
One of my children (who shall remain nameless, to protect the guilty), who should have been in bed already, came and asked for help making a gift for tomorrow. Specifically, the child wanted a balloon.
It was 9:45 and I was tired. I did not want to get out of bed to find a balloon. My creative juices were just not flowing, and I could not think of anything else to do, either.
I suggested that the child just do something simple and stick in a few candies.
The child was quite perturbed and went to bed without preparing anything, angry at me for not helping.
What do you think?
When Moshe got home, he gave me the same advice that I had given him a few days earlier. This child could easily have made a gift on his/her own. The request for help, was really a request for attention.
I realized this was an accurate assessment, but I did not really feel like focussing on a child who should have been in bed, asleep.
What do you think?
How much is reasonable for a kid to ask of a parent?
How much should the
Also, as long as we are on the subject, how much do you spend on this stuff?
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,