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Sunday, September 12, 2010

Self Doubt vs 20/20 Hindsight Vision

It is so hard sometimes to know what is the "right" decision.

Should I go to the hospital?

Will I get back home in time?

Should I let my Mother in Law pick up the kids and take them to my Sister in Law's, where they could spend the holiday with their granparents, aunt, uncle, and cousins?

What if she do not get home in time?

What if we do get home in time?

What is best for the kids?

What is best for the family?

What is best for me?

Well, it is after the fact. 

We got home in time, so it was good that we had the kids stay.

I feel a lot better, so it is good that I went to the hospital.

We made it home before sh'kiyah (sunset, after which time we are not permitted to drive), so it was okay that we left the hospital when we did.

But when we made each of these difficult decisions, we did not know what the outcome would be.

Wouldn't it be great to know in advance that everything would work out in the end?

Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.

With love and optimism,


mikimi said...

it would be even better if YOU did not have to make such decisions!

Batya said...

Take the "half full" and say "whatever you do is the right thing; it's what you were supposed to do." Otherwise you can make yourself crazy.
refuah shleimah

michele said...

Wish you didn't have to make these decisions, but since you do, know (as Batya said) that whatever decision you make will always be the right decision for that time and place, based on the facts available at that moment.

Just keep following your well-honed instincts. Shana tova.

Staying Afloat said...


I always wonder, when I read those perfect stories about how thing turn out perfectly, about what it was like to actually live inside them. To make the decidions, to have the emunah, to do the hishtadlus.

Thanks for letting us in on yours.

Anonymous said...

BH, BH. May your erev RH be a siman and segulah for the year ahead: despite difficulties at the outset you will have smooth sailing thereafter.

Wishing you a year of health and nachas.