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Same kid, different circumstances.... but not all that different.....
Both Moshe and our child woke up extra early, so the child could get to school for an excursion with some kids and a counselor/teacher from the child's school.
Moshe and the child were already in the car when the child was given an instruction that the child did not want to follow. The child expressed dismay in an unacceptable manner. Moshe got out of the car and refused to take the child to school. The child felt crushed and angry.
I tried to intervene and the child, again, behaved with disrespect.
Thanks to a very insightful comment from DK, following my previous post on this topic, I understood that the child was too upset to learn from the experience.
So, I focussed on understanding and reflecting my child's feelings.
When the child was calm enough, I received a sincere apology, along with a desperate request to take the child to school, which I did. On the way, I was able to explain the child's mistakes, and guide the child both in accepting responsibility and in beginning to think what the child can do differently.
One step back, two steps forward.
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,
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