Last Friday, we had plans.
Moshe finally was going to take down the succah (we were all sick after Succot, so the succah stayed up longer than usual).
I finally was going to clean off the Shabbat table (we were away for several weeks, so things piled up....) and cook for Shabbat (we were having guests, for the first time in ages).
Well, you know what they say, "Man plans, God laughs!"
Friday morning, Moshe woke up feeling severe abdominal pain. All he wanted to do was stay in bed.
Now, let's clarify our traditional roles:
When I am do not feel well, I need serious TLC. Every 10 minutes, or so, I announce that I am in pain or not feeling well. I want sympathy. And compassion.
Not Moshe. He is stoic. He never complains. Really. Sometimes he acts so "normal" that I forget. Then he will gently remind me that "I am not complaining, but I still do not feel well...."
So when I saw Moshe writhing in pain, I insisted we call the doctor, who insisted we come in right away. DUH!!
Of course, the doctor then sent us on to the emergency room. Double DUH!!
(Can I leave out the really embarrassing part, when I just "pop" into the pharmacy for some drugs I need, but the whole thing takes way longer than it should have, and by the time I returned to Moshe his pain was even worse! I felt horrible!!)
It took us less than 10 minutes to get to the ER, but by the time we got there, Moshe was beyond miserable. I did everything in my power to move things along and, thank God, they took us in right away. Still, everything takes time!!
The quick version (I will try to post more details later) is that the doctors first thought the source of the pain was from an umbilical hernia, requiring emergency surgery. The head surgeon ordered a CT, just to make sure there were no other problems. The CT revealed a small kidney stone (3-4 mm), which seemed the more likely source of the pain.
Moshe has been in the hosptial (Sha'are Zedek) since Friday. He is currently "under observation," in the Urology Department.
He is no longer suffering from severe pain, just "mild discomfort."
Since there is a 90% chance that the stone will pass on it's own, the doctors are adopting a "wait and see" approach.
At this time, their only concern is risk of infection, which can cause kidney damage.
If they can eliminate this concern, they will release Moshe.
Meanwhile, I have been with Moshe the whole time, except for Saturday night and now. I am off to teach swimming and then I will return to the hospital.
It has been a trying time for both of us.
And a bit strange.
Our roles have been reversed, "The Caregiver" has become "The Patient" and "The Patient" has become "The Caregiver."
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,
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