"Why didn't you tell her about the brit" my husband asked, when he realized that our daughter went home instead of joining us at the simcha (celebration), to which all our children were invited.
"It is such a haval (shame);" he continued, "her school is right around the corner."
I started to explain... then I stopped.
"Why didn't you tell her?" I queried in return. "You saw her this morning. Why didn't you mention it when you took her to school?"
We each had our reasons for why neither of us remembered to inform our daughter.
The question is, whose responsibility is it? Does the onus fall on one of us more than the other?
Moshe clearly felt that the burden of responsibility fell on my shoulders. Perhaps because I am our family's main "program coordinator."
On the other hand, I have a lousy memory (it was bad, even before chemo), and am notorious about forgetting to communicate information about our plans.
Furthermore, Moshe is often the only parent who sees the kids in the morning.
We ended the discussion with neither of us claiming responsibility, but both agreeing to try harder to make sure the kids are informed.
How do other families resolve this issue?
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,
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