I am curious how much other people's families, especially kids, are involved in cleaning and household chores, both during the week and on Erev Shabbat.
I feel like it is very important to involve my kids, but sometimes I feel as if they are the only kids that have chores.
Maybe because I constantly hear "None of my friends do what I do!"
My kids have regular weekday chores which include loading and unloading the dishwashers, cleaning off the table, sweeping the floor, and folding the laundry. They also make their own lunches (because I finally gave up trying to remember what each kid was willing to eat on any given day) and sometimes even dinner (they all know how to make eggs and pasta).
They don't always do their chores in a timely fashion, but that is the goal.
I have also found that having permanent jobs, rather than rotations works better. The idea being that a kid can not procrastinate so long that their chore falls on someone else. Of course, often it still falls on me, but sometimes the system works....
I intent to rotate the permanent jobs, but I am waiting until everyone can do their job well, and without complaining. This is taking much longer than I expected.
For Shabbat, the kids have to sweep and mop, help with peeling and cutting vegetables, and general straightening up. My eldest also does the rice and sometimes makes roasted potatoes.
Jobs are not so evenly distributed, but we try to adapt to the needs and abilities of each of the kids.
My biggest challenge is keeping kids on track on Fridays, and not yelling when it takes MUCH longer than I think it should to do a given chore.
So, what goes on in your home?
How do you keep Fridays pleasant and relaxed?
Please daven (or send happy, healing thoughts) for RivkA bat Teirtzel.
With love and optimism,
Rav Chaim Kanievsky on the hetter mechira
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